How to Master Your Mindset: Start With Your Values

What does it mean to be better today than yesterday?

It means measuring your growth against your own yesterday, not against other people. Maggie’s message is that everyone is made differently — as unique as a fingerprint — and that every one of us has the opportunity to grow.

That standard changes the tone of personal growth. It removes comparison and puts the focus back where change actually happens: inside you, one day at a time. Maggie is honest that challenges will still come — growth is tricky no matter what you’re doing or with whom, and that’s life. The opportunity, as she puts it, is putting tools in your toolbox and being stronger and better together.

Where do I start if I want to master my mindset?

Start with your values — specifically, what you value about yourself. In Maggie’s coaching, this comes first in all things, because the greatest adjustment any of us can make is within ourselves.

It sounds simple, and she says it is. We tend to make it complicated when it doesn’t need to be. Once you understand your own personal value, you can begin to see where to add more to your life, or do things differently, based on what you value in you.

How do I figure out what I value about myself?

Look at what other people already see in you. Maggie suggests a few questions to work through:

• What do I value most about myself?
• Where have other people complimented me?
• Where have people told me, “You’re really good at this”?
• Based on what I value in me, where could I add more — or do things differently?

She invites viewers to share what they value in themselves. Saying it out loud, or writing it down, is part of making it real. She uses the same starting point beyond one-on-one work, describing a values process she was taking a hockey team through — one that changes things when the players put the work in.

What is the mirror effect?

The mirror effect is the idea that what you appreciate and admire in someone else is also what you see within yourself. Maggie offers it as a tip for finding your own values: notice who you admire and why. Those qualities are clues to what already lives in you.

The same awareness works in the other direction. She points out how quickly conversations — especially on social media — can slide into judgment of others, and she’s candid that she has to check herself too. Mastering your mindset includes noticing when admiration turns into judgment.

Why do I know what to do but still not do it?

Because knowing and doing are two different skills — and the space between them is where most people get stuck. Maggie notes that we have more access than ever to greater health, greater wealth and greater relationships; what matters is what we actually do with it.

She describes her role in plain terms: she closes that gap. Part of how she does it is celebration — asking “Where are your wins?” — because celebrating yourself makes a real difference, and because someone needs to be in your corner.

Is mindset coaching the same as therapy?

No — and Maggie is clear that she isn’t comparing herself to therapists. She calls therapy incredible, and notes that licensed professionals help people through situations, patterns, experiences and wounds. People ask her about the difference often.

What she describes is her own focus: approaching things differently because she wants to make lasting change, and helping people see themselves differently. She is explicit that she isn’t telling anyone not to pursue therapy.

Who were you before the world told you who to be?

That question sits underneath all of this work. Maggie raises it for adults and for the kids growing up now, in a world shaped by technology she didn’t have growing up. Getting back to your values is a way of answering it — of seeing yourself on your own terms before anyone else weighs in.